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THE HONEST MOTHER

August 29, 2017

Honesty is the best policy, right?

Apparently so - we teach it, we preach it but apparently the one place where honesty is not a rule to live by is Motherhood. Still.

Here is a blog I wrote - years ago, before I had PND, before I had three kids & before the Constance Hall & Emily Writes phenomenom.  I would love to say that a lot has changed since I wrote this but sadly it seems the only thing that has changed is the amount of f*cks I give!

This judgement. This lack of honesty between mums. The lack of support. It HAS to stop. I don't know how. Maybe it starts with me, and you. If we stop judging ourselves maybe we will find it harder to judge others... maybe that is where the problem truly lies - we judge others so harshly because we judge ourselves even more ruthlessly... but it is the age old chicken or the egg scenario.  Anyway, I digress... here is my blog from 4 years ago.

Eskimo Nell Flip The Bird Zero Judgement

Motherhood - The Truth?

Motherhood, I am not the first to enter into it nor will I be the last. Many have written about this subject, perhaps in a bid to understand their journey or just to passively vent. 

I have been a mother for 10 years and am currently 8 months into round 2.  A decade apart and a lot has changed except one thing, the lack of honesty amongst mothers.  Motherhood is tough.  It is tiresome.  It is lonely, frustrating, isolating and one giant, terrifying guilt trip.  Don't get me wrong, being a mother is something I cherish, enjoy immensely and do not take for granted but it is also one area of my life I struggle with on a daily basis.  Do I struggle because I have a prepubescent 10 year old and Freddy Krueger Jnr living under my roof? Well, to some degree but moreso because being able to be honest about the fact that somedays I am too scared to open my eyes in the morning in case someone wants me and opening my eyes means starting my day, a day that some weeks feels a lot like groundhog day and seemingly admitting this fact makes me a terrible mother.  Sadly, a lot of those people who have that view, are in fact themselves mothers.

"Children are a blessing".  "They aren't babies for long".  "Some people can't have children" are among things you hear if, God forbid, you complain about the fact that you haven't slept for days, or your kid has been crying since their exit from your womb. 

F*CK YOUR JUDGEMENT

Why is it so bad to admit that you are having a hard time?  Why am I suddenly filled with dread the moment I moan about my child(ren) on social media, and instantly want to remove my post?

Yes, those of us lucky enough to be mothers have chosen this journey and yes not getting up to go to 'work' seems luxurious but honestly there are some days where the thought of having a shitty boss or job to complain about so that people don't find me 'annoying' seems exciting.

I think the worst thing in all of this is that even this rant is going to be deemed ungrateful/annoying/negative and therein lies the problem.  Since when did being honest become so taboo? And why should we be made to feel any less of a mother because we are willing to be?  To me, being honest makes me think more of mothers.  To be able to be honest about one of the most judged and judgemental 'occupations' shows a realness that I appreciate, to no end.

In my very humble opinion, if more people were honest and able to admit their struggles perhaps a lot less of our children would be hurt by the hands of those who are meant to protect them. Maybe a lot less mum's would feel isolated and crazy. Maybe then we could stop comparing ourselves to each other and be able to bask in the realness of motherhood instead of hiding behind a facade.

My rant ends here. Perhaps I am the odd one out and the fact that I am honest makes me the weird one but if you read this and think "hell to the yeah, this Mama knows what's up" let me know. Tell me you sometimes hide from your kids, or drive the long way home from the supermarket so you can hear a song without someone talking over the top of it. Admit somedays you don't want your partner to leave for work because you desperately want some company. Hell, even go as far to tell me your 3 month old watches Disney Jnr for longer than you care to admit just so you can drink your fourth coffee in peace. Go on, be honest it feels pretty liberating. (I promise not to judge!)

A x

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Size Chart

At Eskimo Nell we understand the disappointment of opening up your much anticipated purchase only to find that it is the complete wrong size so to help you avoid that have a squizz at our size chart.

Our tanks, jumpers and baseball tees run a little on the big size so we do suggest going down a size.  If you are unsure just send us an email - we love to help!

TANKS: These are UNISEX!! So please check the measurements!

XS: Width 44cm x Length 69cm

S: Width 48cm x Length 72cm

M: Width 51cm x Length 75cm

L: Width 54cm x Length 78cm

XL: Width 57cm x Length 81cm

XXL: Width 60cm x Length 84cm

*Width is taken 2.5cm from bottom of armhole 

 

T-SHIRT: This is a WOMEN'S FIT - please check the measurements!

XS: Width 45.5cm x Length 63.5cm

S: Width 48cm x Length 64.5cm

M: Width 50.5cm x Length 65.5cm

L: Width 53cm x Length 66.5cm

XL: Width 55.5cm x Length 67.5cm

XXL: Width 58cm x Length 68.5cm

*Width is taken 2.5cm from bottom of armhole 

 

FUCK THE FUNK QUEEN STRIPED TEE: This is a WOMEN'S FIT - please check the measurements!

XS: Width 44cm x Length 63cm

S: Width 46.5cm x Length 64cm

M: Width 49cm x Length 65cm

L: Width 51.5cm x Length 66cm

XL: Width 54cm x Length 67cm

 

CROPPED TEES: These are a WOMEN'S FIT - please check the measurements!

XS: Width 47.5cm x Length 44cm

S: Width 50cm x Length 45cm

M: Width 52.5cm x Length 46.5cm

L: Width 55cm x Length 47.5cm

XL: Width 57.5cm x Length 48.5cm

 

T-SHIRT DRESS: These are a WOMEN'S FIT - please check the measurements!

XS: Width 43cm x Length 83.5cm

S: Width 45.5cm x Length 86cm

M: Width 48cm x Length 88.5cm

L: Width 50.5cm x Length 91cm

XL: Width 53cm x Length 93.5cm

 

BOY MAMA/ F the FUNK TEES: These are a MEN's fit and meant to be relaxed - please check the measurements!

S: Width 47cm x Length 71cm

M: Width 52cm x Length 75cm

L: Width 56.5cm x Length 78.5cm

XL: Width 61cm x Length 82cm

XXL: Width 64cm x Length 83.5cm

3XL: Width 68cm x Length 85cm

4XL: Width 75cm x Length 87cm

5XL: Width 80cm x Length 89cm

*Width is taken 2.5cm from bottom of armhole 

 

KIDS TEES: These are UNISEX sizes - please check the measurements!

2: Width 31cm x Length 42cm

4: Width 34cm x Length 46cm

6: Width 37cm x Length 50cm

8: Width 39.5cm x Length 54cm

10: Width 42cm x Length 58cm

12: Width 44.5cm x Length 62cm

14: Width 47cm x Length 66cm

 

KIDS STONEWASH TEES/TANKS: These are UNISEX sizes - please check the measurements!

1: Width 27.5cm x Length 39.5cm

2: Width 29cm x Length 41cm

3: Width 30.5cm x Length 42.5cm

4: Width 32cm x Length 44cm

5: Width 33.5cm x Length 45.5cm

 

BABY STONEWASH ONESIES: These are UNISEX sizes - please check the measurements!

3-6M: Width 22cm x Length 39cm

6-12m: Width 23cm x Length 43cm

12-18M: Width 24cm x Length 46cm

 

JUMPERS: These are also UNISEX and are quite long- please check the measurements!

XS: Width 49cm x Length 71cm

S: Width 52cm x Length 73.5cm

M: Width 55cm x Length 76cm

L: Width 58cm x Length 78.5cm

XL: Width 61cm x Length 81cm

XXL: Width 62.5cm x Length 83.5cm

*Width is taken 2.5cm from bottom of armhole 

 

Hoodie- These are also UNISEX and are quite long- please check the measurements!

XS: Width 49cm x Length 69.5cm

S: Width 52cm x Length 72cm

M: Width 55cm x Length 74.5cm

L: Width 58cm x Length 77cm

XL: Width 61cm x Length 79.5cm

XXL: Width 64cm x Length 82cm

3XL: Width 67cm x Length 84.5cm

*Width is taken 2.5cm from bottom of armhole 

 

Zip Up Hoodie- These are also UNISEX and are quite long- please check the measurements!

XS: Width 48cm x Length 68.5cm

S: Width 51cm x Length 71cm

M: Width 54cm x Length 73.5cm

L: Width 57cm x Length 76cm

XL: Width 60cm x Length 78.5cm

XXL: Width 63m x Length 81cm

3XL: Width 66cm x Length 83.5cm

*Width is taken 2.5cm from bottom of armhole  

Stronger Together V-Neck Tee: These are a WOMEN'S FIT - please check the measurements!

XS: Width 43cm x Length 68cm

S: Width 45.5cm x Length 70cm

M: Width 48cm x Length 72cm

L: Width 50.5cm x Length 74cm

XL: Width 53cm x Length 76cm

*Width is taken 2.5cm from bottom of armhole 

 

 

Baseball Tee: This is a UNISEX FIT - please check the measurements!

XS: Width 45.5cm x Length 72cm

S: Width 48.5cm x Length 75cm

M: Width 52.5cm x Length 78cm

L: Width 56.5cm x Length 81cm

XL: Width 60.5cm x Length 84cm

XXL: Width 64.5cm x Length 85cm

*Width is taken 2.5cm from bottom of armhole 

 

 

KIDS TEES: These are UNISEX sizes - please check the measurements!

2: Width 31cm x Length 42cm

4: Width 34cm x Length 46cm

6: Width 37cm x Length 50cm

8: Width 39.5cm x Length 54cm

10: Width 42cm x Length 58cm

12: Width 44.5cm x Length 62cm

14: Width 47cm x Length 66cm

KIDS JUMPERS: These are UNISEX sizes - please check the measurements!

2: Width 32cm x Length 42cm

4: Width 35cm x Length 46cm

6: Width 38cm x Length 50cm

8: Width 41cm x Length 54cm

10: Width 44cm x Length 58cm

12: Width 47cm x Length 62cm

 

 

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